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I never thought that at 2.5 she would be really comparing herself against the other kids at nursery, specifically about what they have and she hasn't.

She had said in the past about not having a Daddy (and some times actively trying to find one...) but she doesn't seem too worried about that.

At the moment she is much more worried that we don't have a car! She keeps saying I should buy one for her to go in, and poor Fia doesn't have a car.

"Husbands are the problem"

So from time to time I get the question from random  people, carers at the nursery, mums at playgroups, etc

"So,  would you like to have another baby?"

My standard answer is "I have to find a husband first"

Which usually makes the other person check themselves and realize they are talking to a single mother ( Yep, I don't actually have a tattoo on my forehead stating that, and actually look sort of normal, so...)

Sometimes they change the subject, specially if they are married themselves; the younger ones have sometimes gone on with how hard it is to find someone, etc, etc.

But today I had one of the most honest conversations.

Her: How many do you have? Is she your only one? ( she has about three kids the other two much older than the youngest who is in nursery with my monster)

Me: Yep, just her

Her: Do you want anymore?

Me: I kinda need to find a husband first

Her: Do you really want a husband?

Me: Uhm.... well, I think I actually want another baby more than I want to find a husband. (which is quite the truth).

Her: Ah, the husbands. Kids are lovely, the husbands are the problem!



Ah! Finally someone honest! Refreshing


*and no, I have no idea how many husbands this woman has had, or if she currently has one.

That day...

So the dreaded day finally arrived.

Fia said " I want a daddy" I have to say it didn´t take me by surprise. I could tell in the past few weeks she was increasingly aware of "daddies"  either her friends´ at nursery or families in books. I could really tell her head was ticking "other kids have a mummy and a daddy, I´ve only got one"

So she said "Fia wants a daddy." I told her she´s got a mummy who loves her very much, and continues talking about our family and friends.  She didn´t see to take much notice after the third person.

I am a bit concerned that she might feel she is missing out on something by not having one.

... but then again she also asked for a dog and a cat this week.  None of the three are an option for now...
maybe a goldfish will have to do for now.